Oct 08 2008
Can you tell me why?
I have never understood why people have or desire children. As a child, I never really played with dolls, and did not play house often (I played school or drive though bank teller mostly:”). As an adult, I have never enjoyed holding babies or looking at pictures of babies. I enjoy spending a couple of hours here and there with my friend’s children, but I don’t love them or feel anything more than a vague affection toward them.
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I feel like Sylar on Heroes- I want to open up brains and find out why people are obsessed with babies and why they find them cute. If a coworker gets a new pet, I’m all over the pictures. When they try to show me baby pictures…well…actually no one tries to show me because they understand that I don’t get the appeal. Is there no one else like this out there? Are you all really that interested in seeing someone else’s baby? I’m sure you love looking at your own- but a coworker’s???
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So, back to having children…I have never understood why some people proactively want and try to have them. I know, I know, I sound like some cold, unfeeling, alien person with an unchanging face that resembles an overly botoxed Nichole Kidman. I’m really not. Well, you aren’t going to believe me…but I’m not…I swear:) So, maybe this is just how it is. People like me don’t get it and will never be able to- it’s not our thing. People who have and love children do get it and maybe they can’t understand why we WOULDN’T want children. It’s like partisan politics or something- each side feels completely logical and can’t understand the other.
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We’re all different. There’s nothing wrong with the way you feel. Many people choose not to have children and people who do have them can’t understand why. For me I love babies, I think they’re cute but I would never want the responsibility of taking care of one. It’s just a matter of what you want. I enjoyed the post - especially the Nicole Kidman reference
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if i ever had kids, it would probably be some exercise in reliving my childhood or finding a receptacle for all this loneliness/energy/time i have while my sig. other is at work (we’re on opposite schedules). so it’s a good thing i’m not having them. and i probably never should.
i look at how i am with my cats. i used to be all about my cats, not i just tolerate them. a lot of the time i feel myself hating them as they whine to me about things i don’t feel like doing — food, play, blah blah blah. just leave me alone so i can watch heroes.
so it’s really good that i’m not having them. although sometimes i get what can only be explained as the biological urge. or the curiosity of wanting to know how much they’d resemble me and sig. other. selfish, selfish, selfish i tell ya.
She really does look like an alien, doesn’t she jodapoet?
Hi Jennifer, I think I didn’t express myself very well, I’m looking at friends with children and noticing how crammed their schedules are and what little time they have do find out about themselves. But, yeah, absolutely they can be (and some are) artistic.
Hi Sarah, yeah I sometimes want time off from my cats too!!
Hey A, at least you make me feel human! And I’m sure I see them as black and white. I think I just have extreme bias:))